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Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Sometimes The Trouble-Maker Kids Are Safest

Not that long ago I met someone who had been a student in one of the yeshivot, religious boys schools, where and when there were sexual predators who molested students.  He told us that there was an undercurrent of knowledge that bad things were going on.  He proudly told us that he hadn't been attacked:
"I was a troublemaker.  The good kids were the victims, because they could be controlled.  They obeyed orders of silence."
That's right, the "better" your child is, the more trusting, the more he or she may be in danger.  Respect for authority may make him/her more susceptible, easier to molest and willing to protect the pedophile.
Following is the JBAC Chicago Event 17 Oct 2010 and a Presentation by Rabbi Moshe Soloveichik:

There are places here where the clapping is surprisingly tepid.  I just caught it where he didn't think a man whose wife had just been raped called a rabbi before calling the police.  The clapping was surprisingly weak, or was the crowd that small?


Devorah said...

It sounded like "nervous" applause - like the audience is doubtful whether they should agree with him or not. I guess they are still brainwashed with the shidduchim thing.

Just as the sexual abusers seek out the meek and quiet ones, so too do the abusive men who beat up their wives. And often an abused child becomes an abused spouse.
The cycle continues.

As long as there exists any trace of rabbis who go along with abuse in order to protect the abuser, we must hang our heads in shame.

Batya said...

Devorah, also felt that the applause was half-hearted, and that really upset me.

Devorah said...

I can't believe the RAIN here.... it's supposed to be summer, and we have rain scheduled for a week.
It's bucketing down.
I wish I could send it to you.

Batya said...

Part of our punishment, no doubt.

Shy Guy said...

I do not find the clapping "tepid" under the circumstances. It is an awkward topic, where clapping is somewhat contradictory to the somber and depressing mood the subject arouses.

You'll come across similar quietness at events such as holocaust history forums, where often there is an attempt to show the triumph of the survivors, yet the audience's response is subdued because of the price paid.

The fact that this is a subject in the first place is a cause for shame and embarrassment in Jewish communities world-wide.

What's important here is getting the message out and strengthening those who can help take those demented individuals out of our midst and toss them behind bars.

Batya said...

thanks, makes sense, but it shows how long a way we stil have to go