tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post5997223563692256192..comments2024-03-27T16:27:03.093+02:00Comments on Shiloh Musings: Life Isn't Fair, and There Are Things That Can't Be Equally DividedBatyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09402874037427009327noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-17095853714461009592010-06-28T13:52:45.522+03:002010-06-28T13:52:45.522+03:00ank, you're so right about that. It's ver...ank, you're so right about that. It's very common.<br /><br />thanks for writingBatyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09402874037427009327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-45774143369825539002010-06-28T10:02:24.098+03:002010-06-28T10:02:24.098+03:00...And sometimes the burden falls not on one sibli......And sometimes the burden falls not on one sibling but on one inlaw child... My sister in law lives a fair distance away, and only visits once a week, while we live in the same town as my inlaws. My husband travels an awful lot, to very distant places (e.g. Australia). So the burden often falls on me. There was a time a year or 2 ago when my Mother in law, with Alzheimers, fell ill and was hospitalized. It almost came to a decision of divorce or my sanity or leaving my inlaws to cope on their own. I was falling apart. Thank G-d we got the ishur from Bituach Leumi, and an angel in the form of a Philipina carer arrived. <br /><br />The burden still falls very much on me, but a huge load has lifted from my shoulders. <br /><br />It was a very scary time. <br /><br />I should add that I still have elderly parents of my own living nearby too. But we are 3 siblings in the same town which makes matters a lot easier.ank58http://www.israelnationalnews.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-79032703447065487362010-06-28T06:03:49.992+03:002010-06-28T06:03:49.992+03:00You're right about the burden falling on one s...You're right about the burden falling on one sibling. Since I was the youngest and only sibling living with my mother it was my job to take care of her after a stroke. It was exhausting.<br /><br />I won't bad mouth my siblings now that mom is gone but it was hard.<br /><br />The 7th anniversary of her death is tomorrow June 28.Keli Atahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05089132216830000713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-6124697777725830572010-06-28T05:38:01.990+03:002010-06-28T05:38:01.990+03:00Hadassa, thanks, it was never upn to me.
Netivotg...Hadassa, thanks, it was never upn to me.<br /><br />Netivotgirl, CA is so far, like AZ. It's really something how they fight to preserve their independence. Amazing.Batyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09402874037427009327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-43738264144622633072010-06-28T01:47:52.983+03:002010-06-28T01:47:52.983+03:00Batya, this post really hit home. My hubby and I ...Batya, this post really hit home. My hubby and I bought a 5 room apt. 20 years ago so that there'd always be room for a parent by us.<br /><br />Sadly, when Mom got Alzheimers, Dad put her in a home nearby him in upstate N.Y. refusing both my brother's and my offers of having her taken care of in our homes (with help of 24/7 live in help.)<br /><br /><br />When she passed away my brother in Ca. and I worried non-stop about Dad alone in upstate N.Y. where he'd already had the home burglarized while he slept. Finally after years of supplication he sold his home and moved out to CA. to assisted living.<br /><br />You're right: one sibling usually takes the brunt of the care of elderly parents, and in my case it's my brother as Dad had no urge to make aliya. <br /><br />It's a tough situation whereby we have to put our own guilt and feelings in a separate compartment and think what is good for them. All the best and may he have a smooth move to Arizona. May Hashem bless you and your husband for the devoted care you gave your father this past year!Netivotgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00746343586043134996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-40983534329641570912010-06-28T00:44:33.920+03:002010-06-28T00:44:33.920+03:00Shalom!
I'm sorry to hear that your father is ...Shalom!<br />I'm sorry to hear that your father is leaving Israel, but family related decisions are never easy...<br />We all do the best that we can and daven for the best.Hadassanoreply@blogger.com