tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post1064477143440567360..comments2024-03-27T16:27:03.093+02:00Comments on Shiloh Musings: Careful With Words, Promises, Pledges, Oaths etcBatyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09402874037427009327noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-81624738417233129832010-07-12T01:40:13.316+03:002010-07-12T01:40:13.316+03:00Shalom!
Shy Guy, I understood from the blog that B...Shalom!<br />Shy Guy, I understood from the blog that Batya doesn't agree with the "love chumrot" mentality. Goyisherebbe's post is to me further explanation (thank you) of the same track of thinking.<br /><br />The problem isn't just with chumrot either. I have BT friends who learned at the sister school of the yeshiva at which their BT husbands learned. You'd think that the institutions could teach the same material, but unfortunately the disagreements the spouses had caused major marital strife.Hadassanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-12526830742225429772010-07-11T23:47:11.623+03:002010-07-11T23:47:11.623+03:00In those days, kiruv education was in its infancy ...In those days, kiruv education was in its infancy and the people teaching these girls didn't know what kind of monsters they might be creating. There were matches that were made that ended up in divorce and the two members of the couple going their separate ways, sometimes with a quickly-conceived baby as a bone of contention as to how he or she was to be raised. Although the particular conversation was not at all exact in terms of halacha, the danger of chumrot in a husband-wife relationship is very great. Halachically a single woman past the age of 12.5 is autonomous regarding her vows, but she will have to change her customs to conform to those of the man she marries. In a case of vows which do not fit in with the husband's needs or way of looking at things, hatarat nedarim is certainly in order. The Sages said that it is better not to make vows at all, even if one is able to keep them.goyisherebbehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09380171052449799815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-51823724692403704222010-07-11T12:50:30.118+03:002010-07-11T12:50:30.118+03:00When not in context, I don't understand what &...When not in context, I don't understand what "love chumrot" means.<br /><br />Batya, are you a Brisker at heart? :pAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040911.post-47728206611724428072010-07-11T11:48:08.984+03:002010-07-11T11:48:08.984+03:00Shalom!
Did the young woman even understand the ch...Shalom!<br />Did the young woman even understand the chumrot? Was she scrupulously observing the basic mitzvot before taking on the chumrot? Was she falling into a sort of trap in which one takes on a chumra which causes one to neglect a mitzva of no less, and sometimes greater, importance?<br /><br />And a word for Neve Yerushalim: It's grown from an apartment into an impressive complex in Har Nof, with programs for a wide range of levels of Jewish knowledge. Their hasgafa (outlook, way of thinking) is not ours, but I have a great respect for the way they have brought thousands of women, among them relatives and friends, to observing mitzvot.Hadassanoreply@blogger.com